Unlike Match, Bumble, and Hinge, Pare runs criminal background checks on 100% of members before approval. Date with confidence knowing everyone is verified, screened, and accountable.
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Match, Bumble, Hinge, and Tinder don't require background checks. Anyone can join—including people with violent criminal histories, sex offenses, fraud convictions, or ongoing legal issues.
Most dating apps have no screening process:
For singles over 40—especially those returning to dating after years away—this lack of screening creates unnecessary risk. You shouldn't have to wonder if the person you're meeting has a criminal past.
Every applicant undergoes a comprehensive criminal background check before approval. We screen for:
Background checks typically complete within 24-48 hours. If disqualifying offenses are found, the application is denied.
All members must submit a government-issued ID (driver's license, passport, or national ID). We verify that the name, photo, and date of birth match the information provided in the application. This prevents fake profiles and ensures everyone is who they claim to be.
Members complete live video verification where we match their profile photos to their real-time appearance. This prevents catfishing, fake photos, and outdated pictures. What you see is what you get.
Running background checks on every member costs money and slows down onboarding. Most dating apps prioritize growth over safety—they want as many users as possible, as quickly as possible.
Pare is built for adults over 40 who value safety and accountability. We prioritize quality and trust over quantity and speed.
If disqualifying criminal convictions are found during the background check, your application will be denied. We'll notify you that you were not approved, but we don't share the specific details of what was found.
This protects our community and ensures that everyone on Pare has been fully vetted. We take safety seriously, and we don't make exceptions.
Post-date feedback is required. Members who ghost, no-show, or repeatedly behave disrespectfully are flagged or removed. Accountability matters.
Every member gets a personal date concierge for safety advice, venue suggestions, and support. You're never alone.
We send you 3-5 quality matches per week. No swiping through thousands of unverified profiles. Everyone you see has been screened.
Your background check results are confidential. We never share specifics with other members or third parties. Your data is encrypted and secure.
Most background checks complete within 24-48 hours. You'll receive an email when your application is approved or if additional information is needed.
We screen for criminal records including violent crimes, sex offenses, fraud, theft, and other disqualifying convictions. Minor offenses (traffic tickets, etc.) typically don't prevent approval.
No. Background check results are confidential and only visible to Pare staff. Other members simply see that you've been verified—not the details of your check.
No. The background check is included in your $120/month membership. There are no additional fees for verification.
If charges were dropped, dismissed, or expunged, they typically won't prevent approval. Our team reviews each case individually. If you have concerns, contact us at hello@paredating.com.
No. All background checks are confidential. You can trust that every member has been screened, but the specific details are private.
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