Community Guidelines

Verification is not optional at Pare — it is the foundation of everything we offer. Before any profile becomes visible to other members, every applicant completes the following:

• Government-issued photo ID verification (via Certn)
• Criminal record check (via Certn)
• Sex offender registry screening (via Certn)
• AI-assisted fraud and catfishing detection

Submitting false, altered, or borrowed identification is grounds for immediate and permanent removal. Attempting to circumvent any part of the verification process is treated as the most serious breach of our community standards.

Your account must be entirely your own. Shared accounts, proxy profiles, and profiles created on behalf of another person are not permitted.

One profile per person. Duplicate accounts — including accounts created after removal — will be terminated and may result in a permanent ban.

Your profile is your first impression and your commitment to authenticity. We hold it to a high standard — because the members you'll meet are holding theirs to the same.

Photo Requirements

• At least one photo must show your full face, clearly and unobstructed
• Photos must be recent — taken within the last 5 years
• All photos must be of you, and only you (no group shots as your primary photo)
• Photos must be appropriate for a professional-casual setting — no explicit, suggestive, or near-nude content. This includes shirtless photos, underwear, swimwear outside of a clearly outdoor or beach context, or any image that shows or implies nudity
• No photos taken in bathrooms, on toilets, in bedrooms, or in any private setting that is inappropriate for a first impression
• No heavy filters, heavy editing, or AI-generated imagery
• No sunglasses, hats, or obstructions that hide your face in your primary photo
• For the protection of children, we strongly encourage you to avoid including minors in your photos — including your own children or grandchildren

What Makes a Great Profile Photo

The best profile photos are well-lit, genuine, and show you in a context you'd be happy to talk about on a first date — a favourite restaurant, a hobby, a place you love. Our Date Concierge team is happy to offer guidance if you're not sure where to start.

Profile Bio

• Your bio must be honest and written by you
• Do not include contact information (phone numbers, social handles, email addresses) in your bio
• Do not include links of any kind
• Avoid mentioning other dating platforms
• No solicitation, promotion, or commercial content

Pare operates on a fundamentally different model to traditional dating apps. There is no open messaging between members before a Date Zero is confirmed. This is not a limitation — it is the product.

Romance scams are among the fastest-growing forms of financial fraud — and most begin through extended digital messaging before any in-person meeting. Our Date Zero model is designed to get you safely in front of a real, verified person — faster and with far less risk.

How It Works

1. You express interest. Your match expresses interest back.
2. Our AI concierge (Emma) coordinates a Date Zero — a low-stakes, in-person vibe check.
3. You meet. You decide whether you'd like to continue.
4. Follow-on dates can be arranged with or without Emma's help.

Permitted Pre-Date Communication

All coordination before your Date Zero happens through Pare's concierge system. This includes venue suggestions, scheduling, and any logistics. You will not exchange personal contact information through the platform prior to your Date Zero.

Sharing Personal Contact Information

Exchanging phone numbers, email addresses, or social media handles before a Date Zero is discouraged and unsupported by the platform. If you choose to do so after meeting in person, that is your decision. We ask that you never pressure or solicit personal contact details from other members.

Pare is a community of adults who have chosen a higher standard. We expect all members to treat one another with honesty, respect, and dignity — at every stage of the process.

What We Expect

• Show up. If you confirm a Date Zero, attend. Cancellations with less than 24 hours' notice — without a genuine reason — are taken seriously.
• Be honest. Your profile, your photos, and your conduct must reflect who you actually are.
• Be respectful. Dating involves rejection. Handle it graciously — for yourself and for others.
• Be patient. Our concierge-led model takes slightly longer than swipe-based apps by design.

What Is Not Tolerated

• Harassment, intimidation, or threatening behaviour of any kind
• Discriminatory language or conduct based on race, religion, gender, disability, sexual orientation, or any other protected characteristic
• Unwanted sexual comments, requests, or advances
• Pressuring a match to meet sooner, share contact details, or share personal information
• Any attempt to defraud, manipulate, or financially exploit another member — including romance scams, gift requests, or third-party transactions — will result in immediate removal and may be referred to law enforcement
• Requesting or sending money from or to a match under any circumstances
• Misrepresenting your relationship status, living situation, or intentions
• Reproducing, screenshotting, or sharing another member's photos or profile without consent

On Rejection

Our concierge team handles rejection communication on your behalf if you'd like us to — one of the quieter features members tell us they value most. Regardless of how a decision is delivered, members are expected to accept it without pushback, follow-up, or retaliation. No means no.

Every member has shared personal information and undergone verification to be here. That trust carries weight — and a responsibility.

• Do not share another member's name, photos, profile, or personal details with anyone outside of Pare
• Do not attempt to identify or locate a member through information learned on the platform
• Do not screenshot or record interactions with other members without their express consent
• If you become aware that a member's personal information has been compromised, report it to us immediately

Pare handles all member data in accordance with PIPEDA and applicable British Columbia privacy legislation. Your verification data is processed by our third-party provider, Certn, and is not stored by Pare beyond what is legally required. Full details are available in our Privacy Policy.

We take enforcement seriously. Pare is a small, curated community — and we intend to keep it that way. Violations of these guidelines will be reviewed by our team and may result in:

• A formal warning and record on your account
• Temporary suspension
• Permanent removal from the platform
• Referral to law enforcement where appropriate

We do not offer refunds for membership fees in cases of removal due to guideline violations. Decisions made by our team are final, though members may submit a written appeal within 14 days of receiving notice.

Severity determines response. A first-time, minor lapse in conduct will be treated differently from fraud, harassment, or identity misrepresentation. We use judgment — but we do not compromise on safety or trust.

If something doesn't feel right — before, during, or after a Date Zero — please tell us. You will never be judged or penalized for raising a concern in good faith, and your report will be treated with complete confidentiality.

• Report a member or incident: safety@paredating.com
• General support: hello@paredating.com
• Emergency situations: Contact local emergency services immediately (911)

Our team reviews all reports, typically within one business day. For urgent safety concerns, please indicate URGENT in the subject line of your email and we will prioritise your case.