From application to your first date, we handle the details so you can focus on genuine connection. Here's exactly how it works.
Submit a 2-minute application with your basic info. We run a criminal background check, verify your ID, and confirm your photos match. Approval typically takes 24-48 hours.
Once approved, you're paired with a personal concierge who helps you create your profile, choose photos, and set your preferences (deal breakers, age range, what you're looking for).
We send you 3-5 curated matches per week based on your preferences. Every match is verified, background-checked, and meets your criteria. No endless swiping.
Review each match's profile and availability. Interested? Invite them out. Not feeling it? Pass and move on. When both people say yes, your concierge coordinates the date.
Your concierge plans everything—venue, timing, logistics. You meet without weeks of texting buildup. After the date, provide feedback. If both people want to continue, messaging unlocks.
Unlike mainstream apps where anyone can join, we verify identity and conduct criminal background checks on 100% of members. If you don't pass, you can't join. Period.
You're not alone. Your concierge helps with profile creation, date planning, outfit advice, and gracefully handling awkward situations. Think of it as having a dating coach in your corner.
We curate matches for you based on compatibility. You see quality over quantity—typically 3-5 matches per week who actually meet your criteria and are serious about dating.
Post-date feedback and our no-ghosting policy mean everyone is respectful and accountable. People who ghost or don't show up face consequences—unlike other apps where bad behavior is ignored.
Typically 24-48 hours. We'll email you once you're approved. If there are any issues or delays, our team will reach out directly.
If you don't pass the background check due to disqualifying criminal convictions, we'll notify you and you won't be able to join Pare. This protects our community and ensures everyone's safety.
Pare costs $120/month, which includes background checks, ID verification, curated matches, and personal concierge support.
Yes. If you meet someone and want to see where it goes, you can pause your membership. Unpause anytime if things don't work out.
Typically 3-5 curated matches per week. We focus on quality over quantity. Every match is verified, in your area, and meets your stated preferences.
Apply in 2 minutes. Background check included. Meet verified singles over 40.
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